Are you making others feel like they are on the outside, looking in?

Reposted, with modifications, based on my guest post for the May  Civil Engineering Central blog.

There’s an art to building and maintaining client relationships. It’s more important than ever before. Clients are becoming more difficult to “win” and their loyalty is more elusive. And the definition of “client” encompasses those individuals within the workplace, your subcontractors and the companies who have contracted your products, services and capabilities.

There’s no room for elitism in client relationships. Your clients, subcontractors, co-workers and boss may admire your skill set and communication acumen. However, they do not hire you so they can worship you. They hire you for What’s In It For Me (WIFM): what you bring to their table and how you build their revenue stream.

Your “wow” solution or creative design allows people to appreciate you for understanding their needs. They assess your ability at communicating and asking good questions. They are delighted in your facility in translating these needs to the various technical disciplines involved in the project. And they will laud you and your company for producing output that not only solves their initial problem, but perhaps moves their company further along competitively as well. 

So don’t ruin the momentum you and your company  have created by an attitude that communicates you are “too cool” for your clients. Or worse, that your clients are “too ignorant” for you to truly impart the sum total of your skill set.  Or that the language and principles of your technical expertise are too far beyond the capacity of your clients to understand.  Oh, please. These are not the differentiators you want to establish no matter how good you are, how educated you are or how wonderful your solutions are. There’s someone to replace you right around the corner.

That’s not to say you should be your clients’ best friend, either. There is a fine line to maintaining professionalism while being accessible to the full range of your clients’ needs. Developing the extra set (or two) of professional “antenna” which allow you to assess the context of business decision making is crucial to building and maintaining client relationships.  And while professionalism may extend into playing golf, providing tickets to events, and invitations to company social events, you still need to remember that you are hired by your clients (and your company, for that matter) to provide solutions, not companionship.

When it comes down to it, your client base doesn’t owe you anything after they pay their last invoice to your company. No matter how much they fawn over you during the course of the project.  Regardless of whether or not they made you feel invincible and infallible during the course of the project.  Repeat business isn’t guaranteed.  And the context of the next project with this same client may not afford you anywhere near the same degree of familiarity as you encountered during the previous project. In fact, you may not be working with the same set of internal contacts either. All the variables may have changed.

So what legacy do you leave your clients, upon completion of each project?  How do you make them feel?

Think about it.  I know they will.

Times that try your patience…

How patient an individual are you?

Let’s face it, some of our days are better than others.  We are bothered by quotas we have failed to meet (e.g.,  other people’s expectations which are ruling our life), deadlines we have to make, a change in the supply chain or just plain that we were late to work because of traffic.

While we are settling into perhaps what we feel will be an idyllic workday, we get “that” phone call from one of our clients or have to actually meet with them face-to-face.

How do you temper, well, your temper? Harnessing all the factors which are flying around in our daily lives can be like trying to tame the cosmos. Or sail on rough waters. Yet we have to do that in our professional – and personal – capacities. And sometimes, this isn’t very easy.

Your customers really do not care whether your sitter was late, your child was ill, you are over-stretched at the bank, your boss just quit or you didn’t get that promotion you wanted. Even if you feel you have “connected” with your customers and have a “relationship.” When it comes down to it, their expectations from your relationship focus on your ability to deliver the goods and services they have contracted to receive from your company. Period. They are not interested in hearing excuses or even anecdotal personal chit-chat at the front end of your conversation with them.  It devalues their perception of why they work with you.

While I’m not suggesting that you compartmentalize, you actually do have to put all the disruptive “stuff” on your mental back burner and focus on your professional priorities for the day. (A note: I certainly am not talking about suppressing health-related or other serious issues, which may cause you to cancel appointments, etc.) 

Sometimes, on a daily basis, you have to take a deep breath, try to find your personal view of that day’s horizon, and focus on where you are trying to sail to and what you want to accomplish.  Getting caught up in the daily stuff – including company gossip and melodrama – can be disruptive and counterproductive even if everyone else is talking about it. Reading one more email or toggling back and forth on Facebook or a chat room can wait.

Finding your focus for the day before you get to the workplace, even the night before, can be an important means of centering yourself for the day. How many of you plan your day, at least conceptually, the evening before you go to work? Or do you let the day “happen” to you? Having a plan for the day allows you to accommodate the curves that life – and your customers – will throw at you. And while everything may not necessarily happen the way you envisioned it, having some idea of the course you need to take, as well as want to take, for each day allows you to manage your time more wisely and productively.

It’s a matter of disciplining yourself and keeping yourself “in shape” to work, which may include getting up from your chair once each hour to stretch your back and legs. Or getting a drink of water to make sure you are keeping hydrated. Or reading the RSS feeds about your industry and the world in general to determine the trends  impacting your profession and your company.  Take some time to get a plan and a focus for each day.

You may find out you are more productive, patient and enthusiastic throughout the course of the day. Think about it.

Sources of Professional Inspiration

If you bring passion to your profession, how do you keep the fires stoked? What, where or who are your sources of inspiration? I’m certain none of us ever took a course called “Inspiration 101” (at least not in engineering or business school). Yet we do what we do, day in and day out, with some degree of enthusiasm and dedication. Even if the job isn’t perfect. Even if things didn’t turn out quite the way we thought they would.  We keep going and we bring ourselves, our skill set and our energy and drive to the table, consistently.

I find that talking with people – family, friends, clients and colleagues-  provides fuel for my thoughts and certainly for my blogging and consulting.  Dialogues with professionals in other disciplines hybridize my perspective.   I read quite a bit via news feeds, email newsletters, books and journals.  I keep up with what is current, what are trends and what is on people’s minds.   

Some of my colleagues blog and have written books which are “must reads” for me. They always seem to understand “where I am” at the moment and the impetus I need to jump start myself. They put the professional pieces together somewhat differently and provide a fresh perspective I find impactful and inspiring.

And I like to bounce somewhat discrepant ideas around in a conversation. You never know where one thought or bit of conversation will lead you.  Words and their contexts are important. I listen a lot in order to learn even more.

I also find the “offline stuff”,  the things that I do when I am not in a professional setting,  impacts the passion I bring to what I do.  You know, watching an intense sport competition or even strolling up and down the supermarket aisles.  Sometimes when my mind is relatively unpopulated, searching for guacamole or noodles, an idea I’ve been struggling with “zings” in between my ears into my grey cells. Often it is a connection between some causal factors or an aggregate of trends.  It’s interesting how this happens.  I “get it” and I can’t wait to start writing. Does this ever happen to you?

I’ve seen some folks send out daily quotes to inspire others.  Are these quotes helpful to your day? There are plenty of calendars with inspirational material. Of course, my personal favorites for daily inspirational calendars are either Dilbert® or The Far Side®, but I digress.

The point is that there are so many “little things”, incidents, phrases, observations, interactions which are part of our lives. Including getting up in the morning and listening/reading the world news report, for starters, to tee up one’s day.  Today I attended the memorial service celebrating the remarkable life of a wonderful individual whom I met only recently.  The words, sentiments,  and stories told in celebration of his life were pause for reflection on mine. We assimilate these behaviors, attitudes and thoughts into our workday, consciously or subconsciously.  Sometimes these thoughts collect and, after some time, we react or act upon them. They catalyze our actions and inspire us to move ourselves in a new direction.

What are the sources of your professional inspiration? How do they impact who you are and what you do?

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